chickenonabicycle:

truejew:

darthmelyanna:

drst:

kristineirl:

this one’s for all the fat girls who’ve cried in dressing rooms 💗

You’re fine. The clothes are made to be easy to manufacture on machines, not for bodies. The clothes suck, not you.

They’re also manufactured to look attractive on hangers, and very few of us are shaped like hangers. You’re fine.

😱😰😭😭😭😭😭😭😭thank u please more of this type of body positivity I need it

Legit though! I’m a hobbyist seamstress and these are my experiences when shopping mainstream:

For example, most H&M blouses these days don’t even have boobdarts. Which means they will sit awkwardly on literally anyone with boobs, no matter the size. But on hangers or when folded on display? They look fab as fuck. Because hangers don’t have boobs. And the models chosen to show them on the catwalk are usually chosen for their lack of boobage too (unless it’s for lingerie), other requirements including ridiculous size and weight requirements. As for the average (EU available) clothing shops, the worst offender I’ve encountered yet was Zara. Everything’s way too long and way too flat: clearly aimed to look good on the catwalk models but not intended for normal people. At all.

Also sizes are just numbers. Shopping online has taught me that I’m a European M, an American XS-S, and a Japanese L-XL. And then these sizes even vary from shop to shop in the same country: I’m an XL at Apples but an S at Lola&Liza, for example. They’ve also been reducing the sizes of these numbers throughout the years to make people feel bad about themselves and to sell more weight-loss products. Don’t let a number get you down, it does not define you.

So please don’t feel bad about yourself when shops refuse to cater to your size. The clothes they sell are not aimed at real human beings. They are the ones in the wrong here, not you!

the-real-seebs:

jumpingjacktrash:

newvagabond:

infiniteragequit:

sothisistherapy:

ericfvckingharris:

Growing up in an abusive household is a fucking trip dude……If you’ve never had someone angrily wash a dish at you or fold a sock in your direction then how are you gonna understand why I get nervous when you quietly do the laundry, or why I ask “are you mad at me?” when you set the bag of groceries down too hard? It’s a totally different way of living and it impacts you long after you’ve left the situation.

This is so important.

Abused kids speak a language you can’t learn

My heart races when I hear someone sigh and then the adrenaline takes forever to wear off. I hate having these reactions even when I know I am safe.

@ my friends who relate to this: please feel free to ask me for confirmation at any time that we are ok. i won’t get mad. go ahead and test me, try it out, prove it. however many times you need to hear me go “huh? nah, all’s well!” is however many times i’ll say it.

and i promise that if we are not ok i’ll be honest about that too, and it won’t be the end of the world. i may go like “meh, i’m actually pretty grumpy right now about [thing]” and you can be like “sorry i will fix [thing]” and i will be like “thank you i appreciate”and then we’ll be ok again. i won’t hold a grudge and i definitely will not angrily fold a sock at you.

again, as many times as this needs to happen, i’m up for that. i love you and i’m in it for the long haul. our friendship is worth it.

agreed

thehippiejew:

forsayingyes:

gqgqqt:

so this is a thing

a bunch of moms are making letters+audio recordings of affirming, validating letters to queer/trans* people who don’t get that kind of support from their moms

i would say more about it but

im kind of busy in this puddle of tears on the floor so

In case any of my followers don’t have this kind of support from home…

my mom did this and if you need an honourary mother i promise she would be happy to talk to you

plant-bf:

yanno how every january everyone writes the wrong year for a while ?? that’s like how it is when u come out as trans and still misgender or deadname yourself. you’re not faking it, u just gotta get used to the change just like we all do every january.

gummyslime:

s/o to the artists on tumblr that spend hours making art and only get three notes if theyre lucky. youre still awesome and your art is still fantastic

missalsfromiram:

When it comes to names, I think everyone would get along quite well if we adhered to the following two rules:

• Name-sayers: Don’t gawk at the spellings of uncommon names or mangle them for humor. Make an honest attempt at reading them, and at pronouncing them when you’re informed how to say them.
• Name-havers: If someone can’t seem to pronounce your name just right, don’t assume it’s a slight against you or your heritage if there’s no other reason to think so. People typically can’t pronounce sounds or sound sequences that don’t appear in their native language without extensive training.