hey guys friendly reminder from your fave Canadian that esk*mo is a slur so please don’t use it!
I see it usually in the context of “esk*mo kisses” which may pop up when people talk about their ships and their headcanon, but it means “snow eaters” in cree and is a slur against Inuit people so please just don’t use it!
and I would appreciate if u reblogged this because people outside Canada don’t seem to know this for the most part
Also if you want to refer to ‘‘eskimo kisses’‘ and not use that term the Inuit term for it is ‘‘kunik’‘. It’s a traditional greeting usually between relatives or a child and an adult, although it’s a little different from nose kisses so most Canadians call it ‘‘Inuit kiss’‘ and I’ve heard other people call it ‘‘bunny kisses’’. Either way there’s no excuse to use ‘‘eskimo’‘ in this context or another.
hi, Canadian here needing to correct the etymology at the beginning of this post, Esk*mo comes from the Ojibwa word ashkimeq which means ‘eaters of raw meat’. Additionally, Esk*mo isn’t only used as a slur against Inuit people but also against Iñupiat and Yupik people.
tl;dr just don’t use the word 🙂 the indigenous people of the Arctic are real people, not Halloween costumes/cartoon characters
I had an argument about this with an American friend. Cheese and cracker please dont’ use this!
Maybe it’s different now, but when I was a kid going to school in California my teachers used the word esk*mo as if that were an official culture name, in the same category as Navaho or Cree. People outside Canada really have no idea it’s a slur, and it’s a huge failing in the American school system.
Cats and lions kiss this way, too. There are so many nice alternatives.
that dissociation feel when you say something out loud, but the moment you close your mouth again you immediately have NO idea whether you actually said it or just thought about saying it
don’t tolerate tumblr people making fun of those who identify as queer. queer is a very popular label for marginalized community members who aren’t the face of the skinny white cis gay community, among questioning people, among people with complex identities that don’t have alternative terms. these are the people being bullied every time a 17 year old on tumblr gets a popular post mocking them by calling them “kweer.” don’t ignore when this happens and keep silently supporting that behavior.
This is so important, stories like this need to be told. The cultural insistence we have that parenthood is some kind of magical bonding that happens every time without exception does real harm to both parents and children, as you can see from some of these stories:
My father recently told me he never wanted kids, but my mother wanted them. She thought he would love us when we were born.
and
I didn’t realize that a maternal instinct is not universal. You know how
you see parents in the delivery room and they are crying tears of joy? I
felt nothing.
[…] My boys are well cared for and I am always here for them, but it feels very unnatural and fake and unenjoyable. It
is a bit like a retail job you don’t like where you put on a fake
persona and slog through it the best you can. I don’t get to leave this
job, though.
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I also thought I wouldn’t mind missing out on all the partying and holidays because I would have the ultimate gift, a child.
and
I always said I would never have children. I hate kids..I do. I am just not that type of nurturing person. I was always very careful to make sure protection was in use (condoms, birth control) but I am that .1% and apparently very fertile. I do not have that natural motherly instinct that all women seem to have, you know..that one that kicks in the moment they know they’re pregnant. I have to work really hard at it and it’s exhausting. I miss my solitude and being able to “check out” of reality from time to time.
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Because kids aren’t the life completer we believe they are.
Are there people for whom having children completes their lives? No doubt. Are there parents for whom the downsides like sleeplessness and loss of personal time are outweighed by the love and joy they feel? Of course. Are there people who change their minds about wanting kids once they have them? Sure. But that’s not true for everyone. It doesn’t happen every time, it’s never guaranteed, and the consequences are grievous when people who don’t want children have them anyway trusting that they will love the child and be happy.
We need to dispel the starry-eyed myths around pregnancy, childbirth, and marriage and create more realistic expectations. Parenthood is too important a choice for people not to go into it with their eyes open.
“It doesn’t happen every time, it’s never guaranteed, and the consequences are grievous when people who don’t want children have them anyway trusting that they will love the child and be happy.”
This is why being told things like ‘‘You’ll change your mind when you’re older’‘ and ‘‘Its just maternal instinct! All women got a biological clock!’‘ is so harmful and dangerous.
It invalidates what people feel about it, and makes blatant stereotypes an excuse to pressure people into doing something not only dangerous (pregnancy) but potentially mentally devastating to both unwilling and unenthusiastic parents (having unwanted children) AND children (living with parents that don’t want them).
i never want children and i want to show everyone this post who says “youll want them when your older!!”
Time's Vengeance 