That’s all those of you who don’t produce drawings or comics,
fics or drabbles.All of you who just reblog,
only comment, don’t do anything but look and read.This one’s for you.
Because you’re the likers, the sharers, the taggers, the
ask-senders. The reviewers, the praise-givers, the supporters, the flailers.
The response, the feedback, the reward for all that hard work. Sometimes the
difference between giving up and continuing.You’re the cornerstone, the heart and soul of this
community. It wouldn’t exist without you. Please don’t ever ever think
otherwise. Please don’t ever think you shouldn’t talk to the creators whose
stuff you enjoy.And please let me say this:
Thank you for being awesome.
PREACH THIS LOUD AND CLEAR, CONTENT CREATORS WOULD NOT BE WHO WE WERE IF IT WEREN’T FOR SUPPORTERS AND I LOVE ALL OF YOU SO MUCH. YOUR COMMENTS, TAGS, LIKES, REBLOGS, AND ASKS MAKE MY DAY.
Thank you and I love you guys!
AMEN
You guys make this community go!! I love you soooo much!!! 💛💛💛💛💛
ily all don’t forget it.
Stop, you’re making me blush!
Tag: important
Jury nullification. Pass it on.
Jury nullification is so fucking important.
This is something that more people should be aware of, if only because (in many states, at least) defense attorneys are actually prohibited from mentioning it to jurors. The law allows a jury to return a “not guilty” verdict contrary to the facts of the case, but not for the defense to inform them of that power or to argue for its application in the current trial.
I didn’t know about this. Wow.
always reblog
This is SUPER IMPORTANT and also a good reason to show up for jury duty. You know all those laws you think are stupid? This is your chance to maybe do something about it.
I…. I thought this was common knowledge… signal boosting this because it obviously isn’t!
Did not know this
drst:
this one’s for all the fat girls who’ve cried in dressing rooms 💗
You’re fine. The clothes are made to be easy to manufacture on machines, not for bodies. The clothes suck, not you.
They’re also manufactured to look attractive on hangers, and very few of us are shaped like hangers. You’re fine.
😱😰😭😭😭😭😭😭😭thank u please more of this type of body positivity I need it
Legit though! I’m a hobbyist seamstress and these are my experiences when shopping mainstream:
For example, most H&M blouses these days don’t even have boobdarts. Which means they will sit awkwardly on literally anyone with boobs, no matter the size. But on hangers or when folded on display? They look fab as fuck. Because hangers don’t have boobs. And the models chosen to show them on the catwalk are usually chosen for their lack of boobage too (unless it’s for lingerie), other requirements including ridiculous size and weight requirements. As for the average (EU available) clothing shops, the worst offender I’ve encountered yet was Zara. Everything’s way too long and way too flat: clearly aimed to look good on the catwalk models but not intended for normal people. At all.
Also sizes are just numbers. Shopping online has taught me that I’m a European M, an American XS-S, and a Japanese L-XL. And then these sizes even vary from shop to shop in the same country: I’m an XL at Apples but an S at Lola&Liza, for example. They’ve also been reducing the sizes of these numbers throughout the years to make people feel bad about themselves and to sell more weight-loss products. Don’t let a number get you down, it does not define you.
So please don’t feel bad about yourself when shops refuse to cater to your size. The clothes they sell are not aimed at real human beings. They are the ones in the wrong here, not you!
body posi posts are the ones
I needed this after yesterday.
(these are figures for the French clothing industry but I’m sure it’s true in other countries)
Only 0.6% of clothes are available in 46 (again : french size) when 10% of women wear that size. 14% of clothes are available in 34 when only 0.7% of women wear that size.
The most selled size is 42 when the most manufactured is 36.
See the problem? It’s the whole industry that sucks. Not you and your body.
it’s completely acceptable to stay alive for tiny reasons. because you want to hear your favorite song one more time. because your dog will miss you if you leave. because the moon is just too pretty to never see again. because you haven’t seen the next season of a really good tv show. because you want to see the christmas lights this year. if you’re alive, you’re doing enough. if you’re surviving, i’m proud of you.
i really really mean it please write muslim characters, it’s really not that daunting literally all you have to do is throw in a few casual qualities.
have them squint uncertainly at the meat options in a restaurant and ask if there’s pork in the sandwich. have them mention on the phone “oh, i’m gonna stop by the mosque first for prayer but i’ll be there soon.” have your hijabi girls squeal over cute scarves in mall store windows and swoon over sparkly pins. have them kindly reject a glass of water and say “oh, i’m fasting today.”
just don’t make their religion their only defining aspect. like??
for most women, wearing hijab is about as casual as wearing a shirt or pants. give me a badass woman on a mission to save the world just like you’d write literally any other badass woman on a mission to save the world— this one just happens to keep her hair in a headscarf and is careful not to eat certain foods?
and not all muslim women wear scarves, a lot of them just choose not to or they decide not right now but they’ll do it later? like, give me a girl who’s absolutely determined to break a world record and halfway through the story she shows up in a headscarf for the first time and it’s no big deal.
give me a kid who’s on the search for an ancient magical artifact and also they get anxious at some point cause they’re busy but prayer’s gonna start soon and they don’t wanna miss it. have them whip out their phone and search for the nearest mosque. have them find some quiet place to pray alone, like in the corner of a hotel room they just booked while their travel companion’s watching TV with the volume turned down low.
just?? do a bit of research (when are the prayer times, when is ramadan, what are halal foods, mosques in texas, etc.) and write!!! muslim!!! characters!!!
There’s this fic on AO3 that, according to my history page, I have visited 176 times. Which means I alone am responsible for 176 hits on that fic. I commented on some of the chapters, but only a few, because I feel like a stalker when I comment every week. I gave it kudos, but I can only give it one, even though it’s one of my favorites.
So just remember, when you’re looking at that hit count and wondering why you don’t have that same number of kudos (divided by the number of chapters, because each one of those also counts as a hit), it might be because some people out there love your fic. They read it when they’re feeling down. They open it in the waiting room at the doctors office, or in the lonesome dark of night. They turn to it in celebration when they did something right. They open it over and over so they can send the link to their friends, or just to revisit the characters that they love. They checked it ten times in one day, hoping that you had updated.
A disparity between hits and kudos does not mean that your readers didn’t like your fic, or that they were too lazy to hit the kudos button. It means that some of them came back, and there’s nothing that makes me happier about my writing than that.
;_;
Block Boost
A blog called @uglytransmales is going around reblogging trans women’s selfies. I’ve seen a few other girls I know on there already. Block them immediately 🔥
Also remember, as much as this is a hate blog, it’s also bait meant to showcase our “true inherent male rage and violence”. Don’t fall for this bait, don’t engage with them, don’t send them messages, just block them and share the word with others.
Stay beautiful and don’t give them what they want.
Just wanted to let everyone know that the url @uglytransmales is now gone. Taken over by the Woody collective. However, I checked my block list, and it looks they changed their name to @radicalnightmare and are continuing to harass people. So if they aren’t on your block list yet, make sure to add them, as well as report them for harassment/malicious speech.
How is reblogging a selfie dangerous? Go outside
Outing a trans woman to other transmisogynists and writing awful and transphobic comments IS dangerous.
Terfs in general are dangerous cause they doxx, harass and do have a body count.
Your Guide To Reviews
The Problem
Fic writers wonder why people don’t review. They honestly can’t understand the silence. Writers assume that readers:
- usually have something to add/criticize/say
- know how to articulate their own thoughts/feelings
- withhold feedback because they’re lazy or apathetic
- don’t appreciate how much time/effort/energy goes into writing
On the flip-side, readers assume that:
- the writer already knows how ‘good’ their work is
- someone else will review because this fic is ‘obviously’ awesome
- if a fic is already ‘popular,’ their feedback won’t matter
- if they comment, they ‘must’ leave an awesome, insightful, detailed comment that 100% reflects their love for a fic
- since words aren’t adequate, it’s better to stfu and just click the kudos button/favotite/bookmark
None of these assumptions are accurate.
The reality is that:
- there is no reason for a writer to post their work except to get feedback that validates their vision, helps them improve and/or gives them an outsider perspective/interpretation of their work (which can be absolutely mind-blowing)
- like, you can and should write for yourself, but if that’s 100% the case, every good fic would be wasting away in a private word document
- ‘readers’ are not always ‘writers’
- ‘writers’ can naturally put their ideas and emotions into words
- ‘readers’ usually don’t know what to say, which words to use to express themselves, and belittle the importance of their perspective
- many ‘readers’ don’t write, so they can’t empathize with the struggle of writing a fic for a silent but attentive audience
Basically, readers don’t understand writers and vice-versa. Both parties are wired differently. Readers who also write are more likely to review because they empathize with both sides of the equation.
The Solution
Writers
- Be patient, understanding, and persistent
- Appreciate those who do review
- Don’t get bitter, discontinue a beloved story, or assume the worst of your readers
- Realize that everyone is really trying their best
Readers
- Be patient, supportive, honest, and empathetic
- Realize that there’s no minimum! Even two words (like ‘good work!’) can have a huge impact
Review Templates
Things to say when you’re tongue-tied:
Verbs
- I liked the part where/when…
- I wonder why…
- I smiled/laughed when…
- I was confused when…
- I think that…
- I predict…
- I was sad/happy/angry/[other emotion] when…
Nouns
- [character] did/said/felt/will do [this thing]
- because… (if applicable)
- [insert plot point/event]
Example: I think that [this guy] ran away from [his friend] because he was trying to protect him.
And that’s it. You don’t have to say anything else. One sentence is more than enough, but you’ll notice that once you get started, you’ll have a lot to say- so say it!
Author’s style
Your writing is:
- Detailed/descriptive
- Vivid
- Concise (to the point)
- Funny
- Serious
- Surreal
- Unique
- Compelling
- Provocative
- Leaves me wondering about a lot of things, and I’m curious about what happens next
- Confused me a little at times (talk about what confused you! The author will be more than happy to clear things up!)
Do’s and Don’ts
Don’t
- Worry about grammar/typos in your review
- Suggest a direction for the story (most writers know what they’re doing and you just gotta trust them)
- Think that clicking the kudos button is all you can do! Your opinion is important!
- Tell the author to do more of [this] and less of [that]
- Ask them to update without leaving any other feedback
Do
- Leave short comments if you can’t think of anything else to say (“I like this” is more than acceptable, seriously)
- Inform the author of typos (be specific)- many fics are un-beta’d. The writer will appreciate your attention to detail.
- Express your own perspective even if it isn’t ‘correct-’ I think [character] did this because she was jealous, which explains why…
- Understand that your unique interpretation of motives/symbolism/foreshadowing/anything is extremely valuable
- Be honest, but diplomatic
- Bookmark/rec works if you enjoy them, esp to help lesser-known writers
You can copy/paste from this post into your reviews. It’s hard to find the right words sometimes, but for writers, anything is better than silence.
This is great! I have a few things to add.
Writers
- Be patient with your readers, yes. Commenting is a skill, and even when it seems like something easy, it isn’t – not for everyone, at every time. However. It is okay to be disappointed that a story didn’t get much of a response. This is normal, and it doesn’t make you entitled or ungrateful. It makes you a person.
- If a fic isn’t getting much feedback, and you decide to discontinue it for that reason – that’s okay too. No matter how much you want to tell a story, the motivation to put in so, so much effort and make it happen comes from a lot of sources, and comments can be a vital component.
- Post on multiple sites (ao3, FFN, wattpad, tumblr, etc). You want that audience? Go get ‘em!!
Readers
- Don’t get mad at an author for requesting feedback, or discontinuing a story due to lack of it. It’s easy to feel guilty, and it’s often more pleasant to turn guilt into anger and push it outwards, but it’s unfair. The author’s statement isn’t targeting you and only you, and the vast majority of the time, they’re not angry either – they’re scared that they’re pouring their energy into something that no one else cares about.
- You don’t have to go from never commenting, or commenting very rarely, to commenting on every single thing you read. You don’t have to comment at all. But, if you want to comment more, don’t, start out with the goal of going from 0 to 100. Instead, tell yourself “I’m going to comment on at least one fic today,” or “The next time I bookmark a fic, I’m going to tag it with a description of how it made me feel.”
- Using a template isn’t cheating!! “It’s not completely original,” well, who cares. Most of what we say has been said countless times before, but that doesn’t make it meaningless – it’s been said so many times because it’s been meant.
- If you’re worried about commenting because you’re not a native speaker, it’s okay! However, when authors get a comment from someone who says that they’re reading this in a second language, that you’re still learning, we go “oh my god Dedication I love you so much.”
- To those readers who are also writers – commenting is different than writing. They might as well be different languages (and depending on what languages you read/write in, they might actually be different languages). The fact that you write stories might not make commenting any easier, and that, again, is normal. I’ve said several times that “I can only say what I mean when I can put the words into a character’s mouth.”
- If you don’t want to leave a short comment but you don’t know what to say? Talk to a friend about the story while you’re reading, if you have fandom friends. Make them read it too. When you’re done, copy the best parts of the chat log (including keyboard smashes) into the comment box and post it. Authors love that.
– Mod Rose
Saving these because leaving comments is hard, I struggle with it at times and these templates seem useful
As a chick married to an ex-cop, I say this all the time to people close to me, but it bears repeating here: No cop is your friend after you’ve been detained.
Get rear ended by a drunk at a red light? That cop will direct traffic around your vehicle, document the accident, sure. Call animal control on your piece of shit neighbor? You’ve got a pretty good chance the officer who shows up helps out in a meaningful way.
But after you’ve been arrested, when a police officer says, “Just be honest with me and I’ll do the same.” or the old “Help me and I’ll help you.” Politely ask for a lawyer. Shake your head. Ignore them. Pretend you’re Hollywood royalty being asked for a selfie. “ …mmmm… Sorry, but no.”
Keep your mouth shut. Don’t do their work for them. Wait for a lawyer.
I worked as a police dispatcher for a year and a half, and I’d agree with this. My cops were generally nice people (and I say this having been on the wrong end of their sirens twice, once before and once after being hired), and they often helped in good ways… on the street. Not so much in the station. Generally speaking (and I know this is oversimplification and is worse in a lot of places but), it went like this:
On the street, you were considered as a person/citizen they have sworn to protect who may have made a mistake or done something wrong.
Once you were in the station, you were considered as a criminal. In the station you are the only one on your side.
Stay safe.
TV and film has you thinking that only guilty people ask for a lawyer. This is not true. The law is complex and difficult and confusing and if you’re being questioned by the police you’re not going to be in your best state of mind. A lawyer is your basic civil right and you should exercise that right. Keep silent, ask for a lawyer, take your legal advice.
Guilty people don’t ask for a lawyer, smart people do.
“Guilty people don’t ask for a lawyer, smart people do.”
My uncle was a cop. My uncle is the most down to earth, wouldn’t hurt a fly person in the world. I don’t think he even arrested a single person ever, that wasn’t his job on the force.
His advice? Get a fucking lawyer. Never say a damn word. A cop knows how to twist your words around and make you even doubt yourself. They know damn well how to make you feel guilty by getting a lawyer. YOU need to know that it’s SMART to get a lawyer. Get a lawyer.
People can be convinced that they committed a non-existant crime in three hours.
Don’t say shit. Get a lawyer.
If you want to watch a show that shows people admitting to things they may not have done and the tactics involved, check out The Confession Tapes. It’s on Netflix.
My husband is a defense attorney, and yeah, get a lawyer. There is no lawyer more expensive than not getting a lawyer in this kind of situation.
if you can’t go through your dashboard without stressing out because you can’t unfollow several people cause youre scared of them, youre under no obligation to keep sucking up to them, just leave, just go lol they can’t do shit. i know its scary but like.. what are they gonna do, call you out? and for what, because they can’t take rejection? whos the weak one here. find pleasant people. sometimes if youre dashboard is just drama maybe you can just follow aesthetic only blogs. its kind of common sense but people really get scared to be independent on here. its not wrong to have low followers and having decent people on your dash, like its fine, and if someone gives you bad vibes you dont have to deal with it.
One of the biggest tips I can give to y’all would be to remember you have the power and authority to curate your social media spaces to reflect your interests.
You do not owe anyone a like, favorite, comment, reblog, follow, friend, subscribe, etc.
Only you can see your newsfeeds/timelines so only your opinions on what you want to see matter.
That’s it. Social media is a subjective experience centered around you. Remember that and prosper.
—Lily🙏🏽
Time's Vengeance 