What’s better— the thread is filled with people giving some good advice on how to respect a woman’s boundaries and how to ask what she would be okay with, publicly. Lots of trans girls thanking him for being so patient and thoughtful with his words, and lots of people cautioning him that his purpose as a boyfriend would be to keep her safe, even from his own friends and family if need be. A+ shit right here.
honestly tho that scene in the incredibles where mr. incredible sees the names of all the old super heroes that used to be his friends / that he knew from Back in the Day and how every one of them has been killed by syndrome is such a chilling scene for so many reasons
like for one, everyone he knew is dead at this point and has been killed on the same island he’s at now and two, its heartbreaking bc that means that almost every hero wanted to try out being a hero again despite the laws against it and wanted to try and help someone out and relive their glory days, only to be straight up murdered like fuck that scene is just so fuckin intense
I think the core of that scene for me is, when you’re insane like me and you go through it frame by frame, you can work out that Gazerbeam defeated the omnidroid twice – the only super we have enough information to confirm did so. I always wondered about his body in the cave, how and why he got the password… But it makes sense. This thing goes haywire, gets an upgrade, and goes haywire again? He must have been hella suspicious! So he does what any good superhero would do – tries to get to the bottom of what’s really happening on Nomanisan Island. During the process he’s clearly caught and wounded but has just enough time to get himself somewhere he can leave a final message, just praying that the next super to come along will find it and break the cycle.
Gazerbeam is my hero.
Incredibles 2 has a lot to live up to
All of this and…
I’m just realizing that the name is No Man Is An Island???? As in, everyone needs someone to depend on and connect with, no one is ever completely alone or should act all on their own.
Also Gazerbeam probably has X-ray vision–so he not only survived long enough to defeat the Omnidroid, he had the ability to see Syndrome entering the password.
i was just playing pubg while on discord with a couple friends and i accidentally turned on voice chat and as any popular video games goes pubg is littered with the Worst people imaginable so i, not realizing that my voice chat wasn’t set to push to talk, say to my friends “fuck i have voice chat turned on now i have to deal with the FUCKING racists” out loud to the entire starting plane which is followed by dead silence by everyone in the match as i only assume they re-evaluated their lives in the face of my accidental fury
just saw “don’t out a trans person” and “always ask someone’s pronouns” in the same list of How To Be A Good Ally and frankly…… do not always ask someone’s pronouns. please for the love of god do it in private or in an explicitly trans space and then ASK THEM WHERE/WHEN IT IS OKAY TO USE THOSE PRONOUNS. i have been stuck in very uncomfortable situations before where people have asked my pronouns and i have either had to lie or out myself when i wasn’t ready.
I’m not out to my in laws and this is so so so important just for that reason. Always check first!
I confess, I’m never quite sure how to handle this. As I’ve heard it from both sides. NEVER ASK PRONOUNS! and also BE RESPECTFUL, ASK FOR PRONOUNS!
And I think it’s one of those things where there is not any single right answer, unfortunately. But it’s still up to cis-allies to learn how to read a room/situation, and be open to correction if we’ve fucked it up. Erring on the side of caution is always +++++
My IRL trans friends have all said this is their preferred method for allies, to normalize asking for pronouns. So, when I introduce myself in group settings I include my preferred pronouns.
In general, from the conversations that I’ve had (and I’m not counting Tumblr discourse, I’m talking conversations with trans or gender queer/fluid/agender folks) the overwhelming response has been respect and willingness to listen is what they need from allies.
Basically yeah. Asking for pronouns in a space that isn’t prepared to handle transphobia? That’s a problem.
But cis allies volunteering their pronouns during introductions? A+ allying. It normalizes it, and shows a willingness to be an ally.
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