Time's Vengeance

authoratmidnight:

glyndarling:

karla-chans-bjds:

glyndarling:

okamikodomo:

21goblins-in-a-trenchcoat:

terflies:

transmedtwink:

lushbird:

“queer” is such a useless term. if i tell someone im bisexual, they know i am attracted to men and women. if a man tells me he is gay, i know he is a man exclusively attracted to other men. if someone tells me they are queer, it tells me nothing about them. it doesnt tell me who they attracted to. it tells me nothing about that person.

It tells me they’re trying to be a extra lil bitch and that I shouldn’t be friends with them

No, you probably shouldn’t, for their sake.

yall realise thats exactly the point, right

queer covers everyone who is noncis or nonstraight

it covers the identities you want to erase or disallow from the community

it doesn’t immediately tell you private information about someone’s sexuality or gender that you aren’t entitled to

and the person in question may not even know themselves, but queer is what they know they can always use if they’re not sure except they know theyre definitely not cis/straight

you hate it because it’s too inclusive and too broad. It’s supposed to be inclusive and broad. If someone tells you they’re queer then all you need to know is that they are in some way not cis or straight and other than that it aint your business. If being told someone’s identity is none of your business pisses you off, thats a you problem

This is why queer isn’t a slur, and if you think it is, you don’t know your history.

If you want to know if I have a vested interest in equal rights and won’t make judgements, knowing I am queer is enough. 

If you want to know what my genitals look like and who I like you fuck, you’ll need to get to know me better.  Gifts of chocolate and oysters would help.

You could also prefer queer because you are more than one thing that comes under the umbrella. Like you could be transgender and gay, or a genderfluid asexual for example. 

Although I do acknowledge that queer was a slur, so older members of the LGBT+ community probably do not like the word. I will respect their wishes and not use it to refer to them in asked. However I am glad we kind of reclaimed it to be an inclusive term for people who are noncis and/or nonstraight. Since I do like saying queer community so I don’t miss anyone out. 

Since I also acknowledge their could be a group in the community I am currently unaware of, but that doesn’t make them any less valid. I am happy to be educated on it though, because I am aware that the queer community is growing and evolving. 

It was reclaimed in the 70s!  I’m 43 and it has been a word that stands for pride and unity my entire life.  The people older than I are the ones that fought and literally bled to reclaim it (as it was ours originally).  That people are upset about it now is very new and deeply concerning.  A nod back to @21goblins-in-a-trenchcoat

pointing out that it has only come under fire from people that don’t want a broad umbrella.  Those people want to know “what you are” so they know if they want to accept you or not.  We are still vulnerable, we should not be gatekeeping and infighting.  We still have so far to go.

The chocolate and oyster part of my original comment remains true.

‘so older members of the LGBT+ community probably do not like the word’

See you would think that, yet pretty much everyone I see shouting ‘queer is a slur’ are like, under 20.